How I Parent is None of Your Biznass
Girlies, when did how you parent become anyone else's business? I mean, really. When did this society become so power hungry, that everyone had to find something to say about every (clap) single (clap) little (clap) thing (clap) or (clap) big (clap) thing (clap) you (clap) do (clap) with (clap) YOUR (clap) kid?
I mean from letting your kid lick the floor, to breastfeeding/bottle feeding, to organic cotton pants vs. not organic cotton pants, to essential oils for natural healing to Tylenol, to LORD HEAVEN ABOVE VACCINATIONS... when did what YOU do with your kid start to effect people so much that they have to something to say about it?
I'll tell you when.
When everyone decided THEIR way was the best way.
Newsflash, I am going to say this loud and clear for the people in the back of the mom-shaming soccer van.
NO ONE KNOWS HOW TO PARENT OR WHATS BEST FOR A CHILD UNLESS YOU ARE SAID CHILDS MOTHER WHO CARRIED SAID CHILD FOR 9 MONTHS AND THEN BIRTHED SAID CHILD BY PUSHING SAID CHILD THROUGH THE VAGINA OR HAVING A MAJOR SURGERY KNOWN AS (GASP!!!!!!!!!) C-SECTION!!!!!!!!!!
With the flu season coming up, I have seen SO many anti-vax posts and seen so many moms SHAMED on Facebook in Mommy-SUPPORT groups for vaccinating or not vaccinating! Honestly, people, is the mom that vaccinates her child to prevent deadly diseases really effecting your life? I am using the mom who chooses to vaccinate as an example because I have been shamed for vaccinating, as well as many other of my momma friends who have too! I am PRO-VACCINE. And I have my reasons why. As I know many others who are and many others who aren't.
However, just because my rationalization of why I am going to vaccinate my child isn't another persons, doesn't mean I am going to pick fights or tell another mom that I believe she's a bad mom because her view of vaccinations is different than mine. Why you ask? Because it does not effect how I will ever parent my child.
It makes me said to see women who genuinely have a question to ask in a Mommy-Support group have to preface her comment with "My child is not vaccinated and I do not breastfeed - please no negative comments." or "My child is breastfed and vaccinated - please no mom shaming." Or "My child co-sleeps, please don't tell me the risks."
Hey, here's a thought. Keep your opinions on how another mom decides to raise THEIR child to yourself.
Unless you see a parent doing something that is potentially LIFE-THREATENING... (for example, does not have their child buckled in their car seat the correct way! And even then, there is a way to gracefully mention your concern) just keep your opinion to yourself. Remember, your opinion is only wanted if it is asked for. (Reality Check!)
The last time I checked, if you are the one with something to say about everything you see a Momma doing that isn't what you're doing with your kid... The kid you have something to say about...IS. NOT. YOUR. KID.
Do yourself a favor and cut the drama, mama. I bet the kid is just fine, whether breast or bottle fed, vaccinated or not, co-sleeps or doesn't, wears organic cotton pajamas or regular cotton pajamas, sleeps in a crib or bassinet, eats baby food or does BLW.
As mothers, you need a mommy tribe. Mommas who support you and care for you. We have enough people that criticize us! Support your fellow mommas. Mommas will do what THEY think is best for THEIR child no matter what. Whether it be to vaccinate or not. You don't have to agree, but what you can do is keep your opinion to yourself.
Sorry for the rant and if I touched some nerves!
I love all of you no matter how you decide to parent your children! Because, it's not my business!
Here's a pic of my kid because he's just the best.